We have worked with Save the Children’s experts in online safety to develop tips for parents, teachers, leaders of children’s clubs, social workers and anyone else who may interact with teenagers to help them stay safe online.
HOW TO KEEP TEENAGERS SAFE ONLINE
1. Show an interest
- Take an active interest in what your teenagers are doing while respecting their privacy
- Ask them what they enjoy about being online and what they don’t
2. Help them protect themselves and others
- Ask your teenagers how they are protecting themselves online, specially from people they don’t know offline
- Remind teenagers of the risks of people trying to befriend you or asking for personal details
- Never share full names or exact locations online or in apps
- Discuss what to do if you teenagers wants to meet someone they met online
3. Remind them to stop and think before sharing
- Don’t post content immediately online
- Advise them to walk away from their device and ask themselves: “Why am I sharing this information? Could it harm me or other people? Is it kind?” The rule of “if in doubt, leave it out” can be helpful here.
- Talk to your teenager about the risks of asking for or sending certain kinds of photos
4. Discuss how to be smart online
- Check the facts – not everything you see online is true, make sure to question what you see and find reliable sources of information.
5. Disrupt unhealthy habits
- Discuss what makes them feel happy and safe, and what makes them feel sad or stressed
- If technology is making them feel bad, what are some things that can help?
- If technology is preventing them from sleeping or is controlling their time, remind them they can take back that control
6. Teenagers can support themselves and each other
Encourage them to:
- Talk and listen to their friends about what they are doing online and how it makes them feel
- Check in with their friends and make sue they are ok, especially if a friend is acting differently
- Call out bad behaviour online and be a good online friend
- Be a good friend! Stand up to bullying and reach out when you see someone struggling. Be as good of a friend online as you are offline.
- Check in with your friends and make sure they are okay. Remind them everyone needs help sometime.
7. If something bad has happened
- Ensure they have a trusted adult to talk to
- If a child’s image has been shared, it’s not their fault
- Reassure them that everyone makes mistakes: be supportive and be non-judgemental
- If they have experienced online harm, reinforce that you can work together to get help and resolve the problem
8. Know where to go for help
- Be supportive if teenagers are seeking help from you. For example you could say something like “it’s really brave of you to ask for help, we can find a solution.”
- Praise goof offline behaviour to encourage good play habits
9. Keep learning together
- Young people often know the risks and the benefits or digital platforms better than adults
- Ask them to educate you about how they are protecting themselves and others
- Encourage them to speak up and demand change to better protect children online